Obesity
My daughter Nitu Sharma, 21-year-old, is a student of medicine in the 3rd year of medical studies. She is 5’7” tall and weighs 84 kg. She has always been plump since childhood but in the last 3 years, her weight has increased tremendously. I have tried various methods
for her to decrease weight, she has some success with each method for a while, but then as soon as she is a little lax in her efforts, the weight returns to the previous level. She has become very frustrated with this problem. She is in the age where I am considering her marriage, but her weight is damaging her prospects considerably. What is the best psychological help that I can give her?
Obesity is a complex condition influenced by biological, psychological and social factors. It is not merely a matter of lack of willpower, as is commonly believed. Many individuals struggle with cycles of weight loss and regain, which can be emotionally distressing and lead to reduced self-esteem. The frustration that Nitu is experiencing is quite common and can sometimes worsen the problem by leading to emotional eating or loss of motivation. It is important to understand that sustainable weight management requires long-term lifestyle changes rather than short-term efforts.
What you can do?
The most important psychological support you can offer is acceptance and encouragement rather than criticism or pressure. Help her focus on health and well-being instead of only weight or appearance. Setting realistic and achievable goals can prevent disappointment and promote consistency. Encouraging regular physical activity and balanced eating habits in a supportive manner can make a significant difference. It is also helpful to recognize and address emotional triggers that may lead to overeating.
You can motivate her to develop a positive body image and self-confidence, irrespective of her current weight. Avoid comparing her with others or linking her worth to marriage prospects, as this may increase stress and negatively affect her mental health. Professional guidance from a nutritionist, psychologist or counselor can provide structured support and help her build sustainable habits. Behavioral strategies such as self-monitoring, mindful eating and stress management techniques can also be beneficial.
With patience, consistency and emotional support, gradual improvement can be achieved. The focus should remain on long-term health rather than quick results. Building healthy habits and a positive mindset will not only help in managing weight but also improve her overall quality of life. Over time, this balanced approach can lead to more stable and lasting outcomes.
My daughter Nitu Sharma, 21-year-old, is a student of medicine in the 3rd year of medical studies. She is 5’7” tall and weighs 84 kg. She has always been plump since childhood but in the last 3 years, her weight has increased tremendously. I have tried various methods
for her to decrease weight, she has some success with each method for a while, but then as soon as she is a little lax in her efforts, the weight returns to the previous level. She has become very frustrated with this problem. She is in the age where I am considering her marriage, but her weight is damaging her prospects considerably. What is the best psychological help that I can give her?
